The core of respect: approaching the O word

I'm Dr. Orion Teraban and this is Psychax Better Living Through Psychology and the topic of today's short talk is the core of respect. This is an episode for the ladies. Ladies, I'm going to help you to respect the men with whom you want to be in relationships. This is extremely important. I cannot overstate this. As I discussed in my series on how to get any man you want, the unbreakable rule is you can't ever, ever, ever disrespect the man you want to be in a relationship with. And unfortunately, many of you disrespect men in unconscious and unintentional ways, which all but lock you out of the relationships that you tell me that you want to have. Remember, the most toxic relationship belief is that you are free to be yourself. I know it's a bitter pill. Just like you can't reasonably expect to be yourself, warts and all, and keep your job, you can't reasonably expect to be yourself through and through, and keep your relationship. However, rather than talk about the negative aspect of this concept today, that is disrespect, we're going to devote some attention to the positive aspect and discuss how to effectively demonstrate respect for a man. It turns out that men and women are different. When it comes to a man, it is more important for him to feel respected than to feel loved. I'll say that again. When it comes to a man, it's more important for him to feel respected than to feel loved. There's some empirical evidence to back up his position, but it definitely fits with my own personal and professional experience. Now, it's very easy to conflate these two things. They're both positive goods, and of course, men also want to feel loved, and women also want to feel respected. So, aren't we really talking about the same thing? No. Um, no, we're not. Respect and love are very different and it's actually fairly easy to demonstrate this to it which you can respect someone that you don't love and you can love someone that you don't respect. For instance, a general can have a good deal of respect for his enemy's ability but still desire to annihilate him in battle. And it's very difficult to love someone you want to destroy. By the same token, a person can love a child like an infant baby and not respect her ability to do well, anything. It's like it's very difficult to respect a muing mess.