Body Language Expert: Stop Using This, It’s Making People Dislike You, So Are These Subtle Mistakes!

your brain is 12.5 times more likely to believe my gesture over my words and that's because it is very hard to lie with our gestures for example you want to do little experiment with me sure okay I want you to say five but hold up the number three five hard right yeah I had to think about them separately this is why Liars use less gestures but no tool like that is critical if you're trying to set yourself up for success and we're going to go through all of them oh yeah Vanessa van Edwards is a behavioral investigator who science back research from body language and micro Expressions to vocal tones and first Impressions has revolutionized the way we build confidence and create more authentic relationships in every social and professional interaction I'm a recovering awkward person and I thought that Charisma was genetic and I didn't know how to have conversations I didn't even know how to have friends then I discovered that highly successful people speak a hidden language and that is the language of cu's this directly from the research they know that blueprints will talk to anyone they know that if you sit within 25 ft of a high performer your own performance improves by 15% and that there's a direct correlation between confidence and anxiety and the distance p shoulder and our ear Lo so interesting they also know that 82% of our impressions of people are based on warmth and competence so if you worry that people don't take you seriously you have trouble getting raises you feel anxious and overwhelmed I have five power cues for competence but if you have ever been told you're intimidated hard to talk to I want you to use these five warmth cues first what about how to get a partner in terms of cues and body language let's start with a study that blew my mind it's impossible to be attracted to someone who that's so crazy just such a small little thing this has always blown my mind a little bit 53% of you that listen to the show regularly haven't yet subscribe to the show so could I ask you for a favor before we start if you like the show and you like what we do here and you want to support us the free simple way that you can do just that is by hitting the Subscribe button and my commitment to you is if you do that then I'll do everything