Sexless Marriage Is Slowly Killing Him | Here's Why

News flash, men are sexual beings. That's just a biological fact. You can't separate a man from his sexuality any more than you can separate him from his heartbeat. It's not something he chose, and it's not something he can switch off. Which means that for a man, a sexless marriage isn't just a minor disappointment. He can't leave without losing everything he loves. He can't stay and be whole. and he can't go elsewhere without a [ __ ] storm of pain and destruction. So, he's trapped. We know what happens to animals in captivity when they're prevented from expressing their natural behaviors. They deteriorate. Men being living creatures themselves are no different. Sexless marriages are a form of captivity. And multiple studies reveal exactly what happens physiologically to men deprived of sex in monogamy. Sexless marriages are linked to depression and anxiety, elevated stress hormones, cardiovascular disease, a weakened immune system, and a significantly higher risk of early death. So, you know, nothing trivial. But today, I want to explore why. Why does the absence of something many people seem perfectly fine without cause such profound suffering in men? I'm Laura How, a relationship therapist specializing in sexless and low intimacy marriages. I've spent years trying to understand why they hurt so much. And in this video, I'm sharing what I've learned. First, a quick disclaimer. Nothing in this video argues for sex without full, genuine enthusiasm, and it isn't intended as a tool to pressure or coers anyone. The biology I'm describing is real for any man in a sexless marriage. But the solution must always involve trust, safety, and mutual desire. Okay, stick with me to the end on this one because I'm going to explain each layer and then tie all together at the end to give you the full picture. So, let's start with the body and what touch deprivation, which is what this really is, does physiologically, the skin hunger. Touch deprivation is the term researchers use for what happens when human beings are chronically deprived of affectionate touch.